So – I have made the much-anticipated decision that I have been avoiding (aka – dreading) for months, and I am going back on Match.com. After taking a break from dating, and trying to figure out what I want, need and am willing to compromise in a relationship – I realized that the man of my dreams wasn’t going to magically appear on my doorstep, so I have to at least put myself out there. 

As many of you know – I have a fair amount of cynicism, and lack of trust when it comes to dating, as I have been lied to, cheated on and played for a fool, more times than I care to count. However – I have said before, the responsibility falls on me, and I need to take accountability and ownership of my own life (dating or otherwise). Since I don’t do the typical bar scene, and my friends don’t have single guy friends they can introduce me to – I am not really sure how else to meet people. Thus – let the on-line dating shenanigans commence!!

I have been back on-line for less than a week, and I can already tell that I need to take a deep breath and not get too far ahead of myself yet. The same cast of characters that have been on for years are still out there:

• The ex, who said he doesn’t want a relationship, yet keeps breaking hearts on match
• The guy who I went out with that admitted on our first (and only) date that he engaged in a threesome ultimately causing his divorce (see past blog for the full story)
• The guy who I had to block because in his eyes “I am not interested in you” means “please e-mail me over and over asking me out”
• The guy that was WAY shorter than me, lived 3 hours away and called me “lady” in his e-mail while trying to get my attention
• The 75 year old that is married, but his wife can’t have sex – so he is looking for a “partner in bed”

The list goes on and on and on and on. Additionally – in the short timeframe that I have been back on, some interesting new characters have approached me:

• The guy who openly admits in an e-mail to me that he is looking for no more than a good time……with me, and many other women
• The guy that lives in Tennessee – but thinks we have enough in common on paper to make our long distance love affair work
• The 82 year-old man that thinks that age is just a number, and I should really give him a chance
• The 18 year old who said when I didn’t respond to his advances, that I must be too prissy to be “up for the challenge”
• The guy from Europe that told me in an e-mail I was delicious……..huh??

And the weirdest one of all……….

• The woman from Texas who didn’t want to offend me by asking if I was bi-sexual, or bi-curious – but asked anyway!!! Um, for the record…..HELL NO!!

This all being said – I am also convinced that every man that is on-line is “currently separated” rather than legally divorced! Seriously?? It is a proven statistic in my life that this doesn’t work for me. I am open minded – but tired of being rebound girl, or nothing more than an experiment post split!

Yet – anything in life that is worth having, is worth taking a risk for – so, let the adventure begin. I have yet to determine whether I am truly getting back on the horse, or entering into a little slice of hell – but only time will tell, and lord knows, the more time I have, the more stories I have – lucky you 🙂

Onward and upward, as I am sure this new adventure will provide tons of new content. Until next time – I continue to be,

Cynically, Optimistic………….